PEQUDE: Love is in the details

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וַיֹּאמְרוּ אֶל מֹשֶׁה לֵּאמֹר מַרְבִּים הָעָם לְהָבִיא מִדֵּי הָעֲבֹדָה לַמְּלָאכָה

Perhpas late… but not too late….

I think it was when I had my third child that I learned one of the most valuable lessons in the education of the little ones: how to “read” their drawings. All children draw. And without exception our children need us to appreciate and admire their art. Especially when the artwork is dedicated to us: parents! Nobody  taught me how to read and admire a drawing… and before I learned this valuable lesson, all I did, intuitively,  was looking at the drawing for a few seconds seconds and say: “What a beautiful drawing!” o “What a work of art! ” and that’s it. A short phrase with enthusiasm – sometimes deliberately overenthusiastic – was my way of showing admiration for my children’s drawings.

Then I learned that this was not enough. The art that our children dedicate to us must be “read and appreciatted” carefully, looking at the details as we comment them aloud, following with our index the little details that we are finding. “I can see how many windows this house have!  And the curtains…they are so beautiful!  What are they made of? Velvet? This door is very similar to our door! And you also draw the Mezuza!!!  What a beautiful tree! And those beautiful red fruits, what are they? They look like yummy apples … What a beautiful chimney. How many bricks does it have? Let’s cunt them … one, two, three, four, … and the smoke: it reaches the clouds …! “

By commenting on the details that we identify in the drawing, we recreate for our little ones the drawing process of the young artists . And the more details we are able to identify, the less indifferent we will be to our children’s work of art, and the more love we will be transmitting to them. Because, as someone very intelligently said: “The opposite of love is not hatred but indifference”. The less indifference, the more the love. Understood?

If we learn this great lesson in “parenting” we will be able to better understand this week’s Parasha.

The text of the Tora that we will reading tomorrow can become frustrating if we do not have this idea in mind. Because it seems that the Tora repeats too many details about the Mishkan (the Tabernacle) . And as some commentators indicated: it would have been sufficient for the Tora to describe the whole process with two lines: “And the children of Israel built the Mishkan, just as God had ordered it.”  Why was it necessary to abound in so much detail?  Unless we understand that the Mishkan was to our Creator what our children’s drawing is to us  …

What was the Mishkan?  The Mishkan (literally: “residence” or “house”) was the Sanctuary that we Jews dedicated to HaShem. A meeting point between us and Him. A residence that permanently reminded us of the presence of God among us.  Similar to what a Synagogue represents today. The Mishkan was built by “volunteers,” not by slaves. And there were no forced taxes impose on the people. The materials came from voluntary donations by common Israelites in the desert. It was an act of love from the people of Israel to the Creator who rescued them from slavery.  And these innumerable demonstrations of our affection did not go unnoticed by the Creator.

The Tora expresses God’s appreciation for the love we Jews showed in the construction of the Mishkan by mentioning every object, artifact and material used to build this “House” like a parent when he or she looks carefully and lovingly at the drawing of his child, mentioning with enthusiasm each one of its little details.

SHABBAT SHALOM