ADAM and DAVID: A 70 Years Gift

 

By Shemuel Bitton (edited by Tehila B.)

We know that Adam, the first person created, lived a long life of 930 years. But our Rabbis tend to analyze every tiny detail in the Tora and ask why Adam did not reach the more “perfect” number of 1000?

There is a beautiful midrash providing us with an answer. Adam Harishon was originally granted 1000 years of life on this earth. He was privy to see all the neshamot which would reside on earth after him; but one neshama was not shining as brightly as the others, it was flickering. Adam asked HaShem about this odd soul. God responded, telling Adam that this neshama belongs to someone who will die immediately after he is born; and what a shame that is, because this soul happened to have great potential. Adam immediately asks HaShem to take 70 years off of his own life and grant it to this neshama, which just so happened to belong to David Hamelech.

Ok, very nice. Adam lived to 930, David lived to 70; together it equals 1000.
But surely there is more connecting these two Biblical characters other than the ages they reached.

Let us look back to the most famous, or rather, the infamous story of Adam. The sin of the forbidden fruit.
Adam and Chava are told that they can enjoy all the wonders of Gan Eden, and take from any tree they want- except for one! And of course, they go ahead and eat from that very tree.

Many Rabbi’s tell us that when HaShem told Adam and Chava not to take from the forbidden tree, HaShem knew they would fail to listen. After all, it is simply within the grounds of human nature to succumb to fault.,

So if HaShem really intended them to eat from this tree- was that really their sin?

Once Adam eats from the tree, HaShem calls out to him asking him what he has done. Adam responds trying to turn the tables on God- it was the woman YOU gave me who convinced me to eat the fruit! Why am I at fault??
He took zero responsibility, and managed to blame HaShem for his own mistake!
Most of us are in shock from this ordeal- how could he blame the faultless Creator? But this is in fact a sin in which many of us are guilty ourselves- we blame the circumstances we are put in (undoubtedly by God) for our own mistakes.

However, this is not something David Hamelech ever did.
Our king David is known for his ability to admit to his sins and apologize for them. After the incident with Batsheva, the prophet Natan goes to David and publicly calls him out, saying he is deserving of great punishment! David could have very logically concluded that he is king, and any man- prophet or not- audacious enough to rebuke him is deserving of death! Or at the very least, he could have kicked Natan out and ignored him. But David opens his mouth, and the first two words which come out are, “Hatati LaHaShem,” I have sinned to Hashem.
David took responsibility for his actions.

Perhaps in his 70 years of life, David did not only compensate for Adam’s 1000 years, but he also in a way compensated for his actions. He mastered the main trait Adam was lacking in.

Every single one of us is going to make mistakes; we are all going to do things that are not ok. HaShem knows that.
So what will we be judged on?
How we act after we make those mistakes.
Do we flail our arms around frantically, pointing fingers at anyone but ourselves? Or do we step up and admit to fault?

Once we recognize our mistakes, we can not only move past them, but learn from them, and we are less likely to repeat them in the future.

After all, this is the whole point of Asseret Yeme’ Teshuva. We first must recognize and admit to our sins, and then make a plan to change and grow from them.

Be’Ezrat HaShem may we all learn from David Hamelech and be able to imitate his humble ways as we stand before God on these precious days.




What should I think while listening to the Shofar?

“When the doors of compassion are opening, on the day that I will lift my hands in prayer to God, please, Almighty, keep in mind on this day of Judgment, the merit of the sacrificer (Abraham), of the sacrificed (Isaac) and the altar (which they built together) ”.

One of the best-known piyutim of the Rosh HaShana Tefilla (liturgy) is “ET SHAARE ​​RATZON”, “When the doors of compassion …”. This poem is recited immediately before hearing the Shofar, which officially announces the beginning of the Divine judgment. At that time, we ask God not to judge us according to the strict letter of His law, but with compassion. And we also ask Him to take into account the merit of Abraham, our patriarch, when he was willing to sacrifice his son Isaac (Aqedat Ytzjaq). We remember this event at this very moment, first, because the Shofar, a ram’s horn, reminds us of the last “test” to which our patriarch Abraham was subjected.

“It was the final test, the last of the ten: “Take your son, the one born to his wife Sarah, whom you love so much, and offer him as a pure sacrifice to God, on the mountain on which the glory of God manifests ”.

The most difficult test Abraham Abinu had to go through was the binding of Isaac.

The biblical text begins with an exceptional clarification: Genesis 22: “And God put Abraham to the test and said … sacrifice your beloved son Isaac.” God was not asking a human sacrifice. The text clarifies that He was “testing” the limits of Abraham’s love and loyalty to Him. It is a “test” —and an exercise that will train the Jewish people for generations. To understand it better, let’s think about the drill that is normally done in a school or a building when the alarm sounds, pretending that there is a fire, and everyone must leave in an orderly manner. This test not only shows if the school, students and teachers are prepared to face this eventuality in real life, but also serves as training for the future: if everyone responds well in this simulation, it means that they are prepared to respond if someday, God forbid, there is a real fire.

With this example in mind, let us now turn to Abraham’s test. What our patriarch learns in this test — and teaches for posterity — is that a Jew must be “willing” to sacrifice everything for his or her allegiance to God. And that is how we Jews did it for generations: Hananya, Mishael and Azaria, refuse to betray the Tora, knowing that they will be sentenced to death for refusing to bow down to an idol. The same happened with Chana and her seven sons, or with the “Hasidim Rishonim” in the time of Antiochus Epiphanes (2nd century BCE). And with Ribba Aquiba and with millions of Jewish martyrs from the Inquisition to the Shoah. All those who were willing to give up their lives – or that of their children – instead of renouncing their loyalty to God in these extreme circumstances were inspired by the test Abraham Abinu went through when he demonstrated that his love for God was absolutely unconditional.

Today, we don’t have to face any of those dire tests. The challenges we must overcome to observe the Tora are ridiculously small compared to the past: I must sacrifice a little of my sleep to pray with Minyan in the morning (especially now in Selichot) or to study Tora at night, or I must sacrifice part of my money to help others, or my business activity to keep Shabbat, etc., etc. Everything is insignificant compared to the challenges our ancestors faced, when fulfilling the Tora might have costed the loss of life …

It is important to keep in mind when listening to the Shofar, that at this very moment, I’m judging myself. I’m trying to recognize what I am doing wrong and acknowledging what I am not doing right  in terms of observing God’s will. And when we judge ourselves we always need a reference, an example with which to compare ourselves. What better reference than Abraham Abinu? If my Father Abraham was willing to sacrifice what he most loved in the world in order to obey God’s will, shouldn’t I be willing to make a few sacrifices to be more careful and vigilant in my allegiance to HaShem?




ACHOT QETANA: The First Prayer Of The Year

 

HARD TIMES
In just over a month we will celebrate Rosh HaShana, the new year 5782.
To officially inaugurate the Rosh HaShana prayer, on the evening of, we read a beautiful “piyut,” a liturgical poem, called Achot Qetana. Interestingly, this piyut does not allude to the Judgment Day or even to the Shofar; it instead focuses on our desire for a better year than the one we are coming out of.
At the end of each stanza, there is a special verse repeated; “tikhle shana veqileloteha,” may the year- and all of its curses- end.
It is at this very moment, right before the official tefilot of Rosh HaShana, during the final minutes of the year 5781, that we are opening up our hearts to HaShem and asking for better times.
Before delving into the piyut itself we should clarify that fortunately, as privileged Jews of the 21st century, it will be quite difficult to relate to the content of this poem, as it describes the terrible “curses” that the Jews of that time were experiencing. However, it is through this piyut, and through understanding the pain of our ancestors, that we will be able to recognize and appreciate all that HaShem has given us today.

The author of Achot Qetana is Rabbi Abraham Hazan from the city of Gerona, Spain. We know almost nothing about him, except that he was a contemporary of Nachmanides (Ramban, 1194-1270).
Fittingly, most of the text in the piyut focuses on the painful and tragic history of the Jews in 13th century Europe. In its nine stanzas, the text describes- by a poetic and somewhat elusive form- the many persecutions and abuses that the people of Israel had suffered at the hands of the other nations with whom they had tried to find refuge and protection. It narrates the nightmare that had come to life for generations upon generations of Jews. In fact, for most of our history in exile our ancestors were defenseless refugees- unwelcome, demonized, abused.

A CINDERELLA STORY
אָחוֹת קְטַנָּה תְּפִלּוֹתֶיהָ
The youngest sister directs her pleas to You, and sings [today] Your praises Oh God, please heal her from all her ailments, May this year conclude along with all of its curses!“

“Achot Qetana” literally means the “little sister,” the youngest of all siblings.
The nations of the world are the older siblings, coming from the same Father; the Creator of our world. Israel, always considered the smallest nation (Debarim 7:7) lives in exile, banished from her land, depending on the mercy of her older siblings. But far from defending and protecting their youngest sister, these siblings are jealous of her. She is the “chosen one,” the most loved.
The beautiful and adored
Cinderella has been abandoned by her Father, and left at the mercy of her evil stepsisters. But unfortunately, this was no Grimm-brothers tale; this was the very harsh, very real experience of our people for millennia.

רְעֵה אֶת צֹאנְךָ אֲרָיוֹת זָרוּ
[Please, Almighty,] tend back to your flock, which has been scattered by the wild lions, [and direct Your anger not towards us], but towards the enemies of Israel, those who shout “Destroy her!” who have uprooted the delicate branch of the vineyard that You planted, who have destroyed and uprooted it, and have not had compassion even for its little grapes.

Israel is the flock, and God the shepherd. But this flock has strayed from their protector, and now the sheep are scattered, more vulnerable than ever. They have run away to exile, to escape the claws of the cruel lions who took over their land. Israel is also compared to a delicate vine, planted by God. But the enemy has trespassed into the vineyard; not only to steal the grapes, but also to uproot the vine, to stop it from ever growing again. The enemies have destroyed the tender plant, and have not even allowed the “olelot” to survive. “Olelot” refers to the small baby grapes which have not yet ripened; a metaphor to the Jewish children, taken from their parents’ into slavery, or forced conversion. Ripped away from their vine before they were allowed to grow.

חֵילָהּ קָבְעוּ הַגּוֹי כֻּלּוֹ
They dispossess her … they degrade her … and from the pit of her exile her soul is consumed … she has become the poorest of the poor … When will You pity her and when will You rescue Your little daughter from her dungeon?

The youngest daughter sought refuge in Europe. Yet she suffers constant persecution and expulsion; Europe has turned into a prison… but ironically it is the walls of this horrible dungeon that protect her from her enemies. What can possibly be worse than this prison? Being thrown out, having absolutely nowhere to go, no home to return to. Being humiliated and exposed to her enemies that seek her complete destruction. Israel has no army, no base, no power, no political influence. She is completely alone…

FINAL REFLECTION

Reading and singing ACHOT QETANA nowadays leaves me with a bittersweet taste. On the one hand, it is impossible to ignore all what our ancestors went through for 2,000 years… And on the other hand, remembering their suffering helps me to have a better perspective of our contemporary problems as diaspora Jews- which seem so insignificant after reading this poem. Most importantly, Achot Qetana fills my soul with the enormous satisfaction and endless joy to see that after so much suffering, finally, the Youngest Sister is back home! And against all odds, she sees that the prophecies that announced a redemption which seemed impossible even to visualize, are finally realized in our privileged times!

שנזכה לגאולה שלמה, אמן

To be continued

 

Rabbi Yosef Bitton




ROSH HASHANA in three short lessons. # 3 . We and the Shofar

Rosh haShana is “Yom haDin”, the day of judgment. On this important day we stand before the Almighty knowing that we will be judged by Him. The Synagogue is a courtroom and the Shofar announces that the celestial Court is in session. HaShem is the Judge who examines the records of our behavior during the past year, and must decide whether we deserve or not a new opportunity.
What remains to be explained in a little more detail is what should we do while we listen to the Shofar, while we are judged by God?
The process of Teshuba formally lasts for 10 days from the beginning of Rosh haShana until the end of Yom Kippur. And in this process, each day and each event has a different role.
Once Rosh haShana is over we begin an intense period of repentance, reparation and forgiveness. We ask God for forgiveness and we ask our peers for forgiveness, aiming to repair as much as we can.  The process concludes on Yom Kippur, “the Day of Forgiveness”
But in Rosh haShana requesting forgiveness would be premature. That day I must concentrate on Judging myself in front of God. How should i do that? Trying to visualize  myself, not as I normally do, but as God sees me.
The voice of the Shofar is a wake up call for my consciousness and my memory. When I listen to the Shofar I must look at the mirror and admit my mistakes in my heart (מהרהר בתשובה). This first step, essential for the whole process of Teshuba is called hakarat hahet, “admission of my errors”. At that moment I must take charge of my mishaps without evading responsibility. This self-diagnosis is too serious to be taken lightly: it is a prerequisite for what will come after Rosh haShana: confession, repentance, apology, etc.
I will illustrate with an example what we should be doing when we listen to the Shofar.
One of the most important values ​​in Jewish life is hesed, generosity. Let’s take this value as an example. First I have to recall what I did well and what I did wrong this year in this specific area: Have I dedicated enough of my assets, my time and my effort to help others? Was I present when others needed me? How many people asked me for help and I ignored them? And especially, how many people who needed help and did NOT ask for help (probably out of shame)  I have ignored? When I found out that someone was without a job, did I do everything possible to help? When I knew that someone had no place to be , did I open my house for them?
And to get deeper in my introspection I must include God’s perspective into the equation. Because when I feel that I am displaying my failures in front of HaShem my self-inquiry becomes more serious. For example: Given that HaShem was so generous with me, and He gave me means, health, talents, isn’t He expecting from me to share with others what He gave to me?
The main challenge of Rosh haShana is to judge myself as much as possible in the way that God is judging me. Seeing myself from the balcony,  as He sees me. The more real my perception of God’s perception of me is, the less likely that I will deceive myself clinging to my self-exculpatory narrative, and the more effective my Teshuba will be. And vice versa.



ROSH HASHANA: Three questions and answers

Rosh HaShana, is a festive and joyful day, or a solemn and serious day?

To understand the double aspect of Rosh HaShana, let me share with you a question that was asked to rab Obadia Yosef z “l. A Hazan (cantor of the synagogue) should recite the prayers of Rosh HaShana with a cheerful melody or with a sad and solemn tone?
On the one hand, Rosh HaShana is a Yom Tob, a festive and joyful day in which we wish each other to have a good and sweet year. This is why during the two nights of Rosh HaShana we have a pre-meal Seder with blessings and celebration for a better new year.
On the other hand, we know that Rosh HaShana is the “day of judgment”, which begins the “Divine trial” which will determine whether we will deserve to be alive. On Rosh HaShana we recover the awareness of our fragility and our mortality. We realize that the continuation of our life is not guaranteed. That our existence is a delicate privilege, a gift from God, which can be reclaimed by Him at any time. From this point of view, Rosh HaShana is a very serious day. A ‘Yom hadin’, the day of judging whether we deserve or not deserve one more year of life …
I think that now we can better understand the question if Rosh HaShana is a joyous or a solemn day. Rabbi Obadia Yosef replied that Rosh HaShana melodies should be happy. Because although we are judged, we are aware that our Judge is also our Father, who loves us and when we recognize our mistakes is willing to forgive us and give us another chance. Hence the optimism and the celebration.

What happens if a woman has to go to the Mikve the night of Rosh HaShanah or Yom Kippur?

There are some nights in the Hebrew calendar during which marital relations are suspended.
There are two categories:
1. Yom Kippur and Tisha B’Av. During these two nights, conjugal relations are strictly forbidden by Halakha. Therefore, if the Mikve night falls on one of two nights, the Mikve must be postponed until the following night.
2. During the two nights of Shabu’ot, both nights of Rosh HaShana and the night of Hoshana Rabbah conjugal relations are also prohibited. However, this limitation is not Halakhic (= from the Talmud) but it is rather a tradition (Minhag). Therefore, if the Mikve falls during one of these 5 nights, a woman goes normally to the Mikve and this limitation is suspended. The rabbis, however, recommended proceeding with more circumspection than usual during the night of Rosh HaShana.

Do women have the same obligation as men in relation to the Mitsva of Shofar?

Men are required to listen the Shofar, following the biblical commandment “yom teru’a yihie lakhem”. And although women are formally exempt from the Mitsva of Shofar, since it is a commandment which is only fulfilled at a specific time, in practical terms, women listen to the Shofar like men. Why? Keep in mind that in addition to the formal compliance with this important command, the sound of the Shofar “awakens us from our spiritual slumber,” calling us to repent and to improve our actions. And this is a message that both men and women,need to assimilate these days of Teshuba. Therefore, it is very commendable for women to attend synagogue, hear the shofar and be inspired by its sound. The only practical difference between men and women regarding the Shofar relates to the recitation of Berakha in the case of a person who can not attend synagogue on Rosh HaShana. Let’s see. In the Synagogue the Toke’a (= the person who blows the Shofar) recites the Berakha ASHER QIDDESHANU BEMITSVOTAV VETSIVANU LISHMOA’ QOL SHOFAR for the whole congregation. And all who hear this Berakha and say AMEN, men or women, are included in this blessing. However, if a woman is not able to attend the Synagogue, when the Ba’al Toke’a blows the Shofar she should not recite the Berachah. While in the case of a man who hears the Shofar out of the synagogue, he does recite the Berakha (among Ashkenazi Jews, women also recite the Berakha in these circumstances).

 




The SHOFAR and Jiminy Cricket

I remember the first time heard the word “conscience” was when I was a kid and I discovered one of my favorite characters, “Jiminy Cricket”, Pinocchio’s conscience. Jiminy tried to keep Pinocchio out of trouble, and especially protected him from falling into the wrong influences. While listening to Jiminy, everything was fine for Pinocchio. The problems began for the wooden boy when he chose to ignore the desperate calls of warning from his cricket ….
The conscience is an integral part of our neshama (human soul). Its mission is to warn us when we are doing something wrong. It is the mental and spiritual mechanism that God gave us to protect ourselves from ourselves.
Our conscience (= yetser hatob) is the inner voice, that when, for example, we are about to say something negative about someone (lashon hara) shouts from inside: “Do not do it, it is bad to speak critically of another person. Would you like people to say that about you? “
But what happens when we ignore the first call of our conscience? How many times our conscience warns us about bad things we are about to do?
Our conscience shouts loud and clear the first time we are about to do something wrong. The Tsadiqim (=  completely righteous people) hear and obey the first call of their conscience. Therefore, they maintain a permanently “active” and alert conscience that speaks with a strong and loud voice.
But what if, like Pinocchio, we decided to ignore the warning of our conscience?
When we ignore the first call of our conscience, that inner voice becomes increasingly lower and weaker … The conscience becomes virtually “mute”. And if we persist in our wrongdoing, and conscience are anesthetized, or in the words of Maimonides, “asleep”.
According to Maimonides the shofar is like an alarm clock. Consciences that have not been heard for the first time, have fallen asleep. The Shofar helps us to recover the original voice of our sleeping consciences.
In this sense, when we hear the shofar on Rosh Hashanah, we are starting the deepest step of the Teshuba process. We awaken our moral lethargy and reexamine our conduct in the light of a renewed conscience, awake and alert, which will call our attention like the first time.
The Shofar is the Divine alarm clock that calls us to reflect, reassess our behavior and ask ourselves: Is it possible that we are doing things wrong, and we did not even realize it? We speak critically of others, we proceed with dishonesty, we hurt people, we do not appreciate how much Hashem gives us, we lose our time in material vanities, etc, etc, etc …. and we have become so used to this routine, that our consciences no longer shout at us….
In the words of Maimonides (MT, Teshuba 3: 4) the shofar of Rosh Hashanah sends a powerful message:
“Awaken from your slumber, all those asleep! Those who are sleeping, stand up to review your deeds. Repent of what you have done wrong and remember your Creator … Examine your souls. Improve your behavior. Abandon your evil ways and your evil thoughts “